We all have those forbidden impulses within us. Once in a while, we want to give in to our innermost desires and have guilt-free sex. What’s better than having sex with no strings attached than a one-night stand! You can unleash your innermost desires without having to go through the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship.
But not all one-night stands end up as those Condom ads on television or like Samantha’s adventures in Sex in the City. Some one-night stands could just be plain vanilla sex. When it comes to one-night stands, you either glow thinking about the amazing night you had or end up doing the walk of shame. It’s always better to do your homework on one-night stand tips.
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8 Tips on How to make a one-night stand amazing
Having sex with a stranger the first and maybe last time could be scary. After all, the person could turn out to be a creep or may have some weird sexual fetish that makes you run for the door. Sometimes, emotions like fear and guilt prevent you from indulging in a sexual adventure. Being sexually attracted to someone is normal. You just need to know how to make a one-night stand not awkward. The most important thing about having a one-night stand is to make sure that you both have safe sex.
If you’re one of those people who is looking to spice up your one-night stands, here are 8 great ways on how to rock one-night stands.
1. Make it Kinky
You’re about to indulge in a sexual adventure. Make sure that you’ve done your homework. Give in to your innermost desires. Imagine all the things that would give you sexual gratification. Don’t try 50 Shades of Grey all at once, but you may draw inspiration from it. Go for a lingerie shopping retreat. Try on kinky lingerie and see whether it makes you feel sexy. Embrace your inner beast. The sexier the lingerie, the harder it will be for you to not have a good time.
2. Let Them Know What You Want
Nothing is a greater turn-on than telling your partner what you want. Talking about your sexual fantasies will make them go more wild and even hornier for you. In a one-night stand, there’s no pressure. You can tell your partner exactly what you want without thinking about being judged.
You may also make your partner feel more comfortable with expressing your desires rather than talking about them. Plus, you can gently take your partner’s hand or face to the part of your body that arouses you the most. Gently whisper in your partner’s ear, “You know what I want”. This will not only be a great start to your one-night stand but will also be a more erotic one.
3. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty to your partner is just the cherry on the top for having an amazing one-night stand. For that night, don’t care about who you are. Just think about what you want. Talking dirty to your partner while having sex will elevate your sexual experience. Your senses will get heightened and will help you get more creative. You can start with simple phrases like, “You don’t know what is in store for you tonight,” “I’m going to give you the ride of your life” or “I want to fuck you so hard.”
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4. Don’t Get Personal
One-night stands are supposed to be fun and relaxing. There’s no room for real-life drama in it. After having an amazing night, you may end up having a personal conversation. Talking about your personal life with someone you’ve just had a one-night stand with, is a big mistake. There are two ways how this will go. You may end up getting emotionally attached with your partner or you will end up realizing that you’ve shared too much about your life with them. On your way back, you’ll keep having flashbacks of your personal conversation and feel embarrassed for sharing too much.
5. Be vigilant
Spending quality time with someone you don’t know appropriately on a one-night stand sometimes can be dangerous. Try to share the name of that person and the address of where you are with any of your trustworthy friends. This thing will always be helpful in case something unexpected happens.
6. Show Each Other Your Moves
The entire idea of having a one-night stand is gratification and indulging in your guilty pleasures. You don’t want to indulge in something you’ve already done before. You want to feel different and alive. Don’t shy away from showing off your best moves in sex. You can also ask your partner to show their moves. Sharing each other’s moves will help you both in upping your game. It will also give you the confidence to experiment more with one-night stands.
7. Be present at the moment
To get the most out of a one-night stand, be present at the moment and think about your date, which will help enjoy the time you are spending with that person. Don’t overlook or overreact to the facts as you are just here to enjoy the one-night stand with your match. Mostly it is for only one night, so try to enjoy it to the fullest.
8. Plan Your Exit Strategy
How many of you have felt that morning after awkwardness after your one-night stand? One of the major reasons why one-night stands get awkward is because of not having an exit strategy. You get up in the morning, looking for the right window to leave, but don’t find one. Sometimes, you may end up giving the worst excuse which makes it awkward for the both of you. Plan your excuse beforehand to make things less awkward. You may casually slip in that you need to leave early morning because of a work thing or a pre-planned appointment. If you can’t find an excuse, you can always ask your best friend to call you for a fake emergency.
If you’ve decided that you want to explore your sexuality, make sure that it’s for the right reasons. Don’t do it because you want an escape from some real-life problem or heartbreak. Do it because you want a sexual adventure or a fun night. Make sure that you’re doing it with a stranger.
Having a one-night stand with an ex or a friend will just open a can of worms. If you want to take control, you may set ground rules first. Tell your partner about your expectations from the night and make sure that you both are on the same page. Make sure that you embrace your sexuality and unleash your inner beast. After all, forbidden fruit is always the most enticing.