Sometimes I entertain the thought of being the only person in the world with an unfulfilled desire for love. Sometimes I think that no matter how much I want companionship, such a thing will never find me. Why? I exist during a time where divorce is as common as marriage, broken relationships are rampant, even expected. Men are berated for being masculine, and women are encouraged to put work before family. Not to mention the increase of Christians who encourage sinful behaviors like homosexuality and transgenderism.
All of this tends to crumble my hope.
Sometimes I entertain the thought of living life single, not out of calling like Paul, or even by choice. I would be single because there was no opportunity for marriage. Honestly, living single wouldn’t be bad. I enjoy waking in the morning and praying out loud to God without the concern of waking my wife. I can work late whenever and serve others on my own schedule.
Despite being content with these benefits, there remains a desire – the desire for a spouse.
The truth is, there are people my age, even older, who also desire companionship. Some have had a chance for love and messed up. Some had spouses who passed. Others are still waiting for their opportunity. How much of love is us waiting on God, or Him waiting on us to act? Is there such an equation? Does everyone who wants love get an opportunity?
There are so many questions. And with every question an excuse to doubt.
The Bible gives reason for hope, however. In God’s love for His people, He doesn’t neglect to bless His people with gifts. Jesus sure thought so.
“If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him.” (Matthew 7:11)
Other verses in Scripture too, speak to God’s ability and desire to bless His children.
“Commit your activities to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” (Proverbs 16:3)
“So Ruth left and entered the field to gather grain behind the harvesters. She happened to be in the portion of the field belonging to Boaz, who was from Elimelech’s family.” (Ruth 2:3)
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him.” (Genesis 2:18)
Marriage is indeed a gift. Odds are, we will find someone. Maybe not everyone finds a spouse, but God will give us something to satiate the longing we feel. Regardless, while we wait to find out what that something is, we can continue to hope. For those like me who hope for a spouse, we can keep hope alive through knowing God’s Word, and especially through prayer. Here are 4 hopeful prayers for your future spouse.
1. A Prayer for a Godly Spouse
I thank you for the gift of life. I thank you for loving me through my highs and lows, for caring so much about me that our relationship is surely the pinnacle of intimacy. Father, Scripture tells me that you know me so well as to know the number of hairs on my head. The Bible says that even if my father and mother abandon me, you will still care. Thus, I know that no matter who is or is not in my life that your love endures.
With this in mind, I approach you now with a longing that has been in my heart. For a while, I have desired companionship. Not the simple companionship of a friend, but one that blossoms into marriage. I have been let down by people in the past and nothing has reached that stage. These days, I lack hope that any relationship ever will.
I don’t know my future though. All I can do is try my best. If marriage is my goal, then I can act accordingly. Still, some days I feel like no matter how hard I try, I’m in no way closer. Some days I lack hope. Some days I doubt. Thankfully, you are in charge. I’m grateful I can turn to you now.
And so I pray, God, please bring me a godly spouse. Someone who will commit to a relationship with me, but is very much abiding in a relationship with you. I pray for someone who is virtuous, not in the ways of the world, but the ways of Scripture. I pray for someone who is loving, respectful, communicative, a spouse who is willing to challenge, but also collaborate. I pray for a spouse who accepts my flaws, and for me to accept theirs.
I pray that my future spouse and I can serve to bring one another closer to Christ each and every day.
I don’t know what my future spouse has gone through. One day I hope to learn. Until then, I pray that whatever hardships they have faced in life or will, that you help them to overcome their suffering. Everyone has struggles, including myself. Yet, I pray that my future spouse is working proactively to deal with their problems. I pray that they work to minimize the baggage they will bring into our relationship.
And Lord, I pray the same for myself as I await meeting them.
Whatever relationships with family, friends, or past lovers that have negatively affected them, please help my spouse to learn from each interaction. Heal my spouse Lord, like only you can. And I pray that upon the day that we meet, that our relationship would serve as not just a source of growth for us both, but also as a source of healing.
In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
3. A Prayer for Sexual Purity
Father in Heaven,
Virginity is not common today, nor is such a thing respected or even expected. Father, I know you value such things, and I pray that you help me to as well.
My prayer is that you help my spouse and me to maintain sexual purity prior to our relationship, and within our relationship leading up to the day of marriage. I ask that you help us to avoid mistakes of the past and make wise decisions when interacting.
I pray that we are able to forgive one another for any prior sexual history and that such things do not prevent us from enjoying the gift of sex. May you help us to reserve this gift for marriage.
4. A Prayer for Contentedness
I pray that whether or not you answer my prayers for a spouse, that you would help me to forever remain connected to you. Help me to never hold anyone or anything above you. No job, no relative, no friend, no spouse. God, I ask that you help me to never define myself solely by my human relationships. Not when I get married, and not today as a single person.
My prayer is for contentment; an acceptance that I don’t have a spouse, and still finding happiness, still finding peace. Please help me to find joy in what I do have, namely a beautiful relationship with you. Help me to bask in your love and all areas of your provision. Your love doesn’t hinge on the presence or absence of a spouse.
Keep this truth in my heart, God. No matter what you care for me, and for that I am eternally grateful.
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Aaron Brown is a freelance writer, dance teacher, and visual artist. He currently contributes articles to GodUpdates, GodTube, iBelieve, and Crosswalk. Aaron also supports clients through the freelance platform Upwork.