These types of articles are hard to write because there’s a part of me that thinks “wait, that’s not fair! Wives should be doing these things, too!” Ha! And guess what? That’s 100 percent true. Marriage is both spouses putting each other first, providing for each other, and loving each other through the good, the bad, and the ugly. (which can often occur all in a single day, can I get an amen?)
But there are some specific commands in Scripture that apply directly to husbands that are worth looking at. These directives go a long way toward a happy, healthy, and godly marriage.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Whew, that’s a lot! And here’s why:
“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” (1 Corinthians 11:3)
There’s an order to things, established by God Himself, as indicated in the verse above. Marriage just doesn’t work outside of God’s perfectly ordained plan.
As women, we understand that our husbands aren’t going to get these things right all the time. Nor are we as wives going to perfectly execute our part of the marriage and the commands Scripture gives us! This article isn’t to cast stones or shame, but to help a man understand a woman’s heart, because lets’ face it—we’re a different species!
While offering that perspective, along with a heaping dose of grace and understanding, here are—from a wifely perspective—10 ways to be the husband your wife needs.
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